DIRECTION: LOOKING TOWARDS

You probably already have a few goals in mind. But before we get to that, seeing where you’ve been is important. A famous quote says, “Don’t look back; you’re not going that way.”

We need to release and learn from our experiences.

  • We think of goals or intentions from a ‘whole-life-flow’ perspective rather than a one-time event.

We want to minimise the hamster wheel and encourage you towards conscious and deliberate creation.

It’s about impacting your journey, not just a one-time event.

  • Emotional alignment is key.

You have to feel good about what you’re aiming for.

Your emotions play a key role in your motivation. You cannot leave them behind when you go to work or when you’re doing a project. When we repress them, it’s unhelpful. Emotional intelligence is feeling, knowing, and choosing when to act.

  • YOUR NEXT ADVENTURE ™ is about testing and feedback.

There is no success or failure. Instead, there is a blueprint that worked in that instance or an opportunity to refine and explore with curiosity. Flexibility and curiosity are key factors in creativity and achievement. Cherish and cultivate them both.

  • Resources flow when we are aligned.

Money is not a “thing”; it’s a resource, just like our perception of time and the air we breathe. If we focus our life on money, we miss the more significant opportunity to generate revenue and profound satisfaction.

  • Control is an illusion.

One of those fear triggers has developed from our social conditioning. We cannot control time and other people, and our ability to perceive is governed by the values, thoughts, experiences, and beliefs we have been conditioned with over time.

  • To make your dreams a reality, you may want to LET GO.

Let go of some of your social and emotional conditioning. This will align you with who you are rather than with whom you think you should be. This is your place of power.

  • Language alignment supports so much.

Firstly, we are interested in the clarity that language alignment can bring. Then we are interested in the things you say to yourself inside your head. This is where your real motivation lies, and your relationship with yourself is the make or break of having lived the way you want it.

  • Balance and alignment in the body and mind are crucial to the successful outcome of this programme.

The INSIGHT THROUGH ENQUIRY METHOD does not subscribe to working extremely long hours to get what you want. Balanced alignment comes from relaxation for your body and mind and stimulation. We will ask you to take rest days and curiosity days during the programme. Each serves a different purpose.

Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m a 100% or nothing kind of a person”? Have you said it yourself?

So, what is it all about? We tend to have three types of conflicts in our thinking, in our beliefs and values.

TOWARDS – TOWARDS

A towards-towards conflict is when we want two different things simultaneously. Let’s say your CV is out with a headhunter, and you gain two job offers. You like both companies and cannot decide which offer to go for. You are in a stuck state, and the motivating emotions are POSITIVE.

Managing Towards-Towards Conflicts

This conflict is the simplest to manage. We talk to each part (option) and ask ourselves their purpose until we can’t go any higher.

When we notice that both options’ purpose is the same, it doesn’t matter which option we take because they both get the same outcome. We free ourselves to make a decision.

Please be aware that sometimes we think the conflict is towards-towards when it could be a towards-away conflict.

TOWARDS – AWAY

A towards-away conflict occurs when we want something and don’t think we can have it for whatever reason. For example, let us say you have been thinking about setting up a business and leaving your job.

You believe it is the best thing to do, but you are worried you are not financially stable enough to pursue the idea. For example, you may set up a business on the side, run it for years, and yet stay at your job for a steady income.

Even though you consciously know that you can create more income from 100% focus on your business. Or, you may consistently find yourself with more unexpected expenses to prove that you are not financially stable enough to leave your job.

Either way, you’re stuck between POSITIVE and NEGATIVE emotions or beliefs charged with NEGATIVE emotions.

MANAGING TOWARDS-AWAY CONFLICTS

To free a towards-away conflict, we must identify the limiting belief and the negative emotional charge around the idea.

Once we have done this, we can use various coaching techniques to release limitations and free our thinking to reach TOWARDS motivation. We will be demonstrating this in the live session.

AWAY – AWAY

Here is a story of an actual client. He grew up in a household where both his parents were medical doctors. His mother demonstrated emotionally unstable behaviour throughout his childhood.

When he told anyone about this, they did not believe him.

He heard from his parents that they were busy, and he had to be a robust and grown-up man from a very young age.

Furthermore, he perceived that the only way he could gain their attention was at an intellectual level. So, he read everything he could get his hands on and became a highly knowledgeable person.

In his adult life, he had challenges with intimate relationships.

He expressed that he only attracted needy girlfriends.

He reported that if any of these girls ever showed vulnerability, especially tears, he would find himself unable to breathe and quickly end the relationship. Furthermore, he talked about himself as operating a character. He found it impossible to spend time alone or to go to sleep unless he knew precisely what he was doing the next day. Breathing difficulties manifested in every emotional situation; his knee-jerk reaction was to learn or do something.

This is a common conflict. Feeling emotions is unsafe, and I don’t want to be alone. AWAY from feeling emotions and AWAY from being alone.

MANAGING AWAY-AWAY CONFLICTS

As you can imagine, these are the most challenging to release and require careful handling. We will be working on these conflicts during the ECHOS Deep Insight Programme, where we will have the time to manage the process with due care and attention. You can also address these in 1-2-1 coaching.

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

In their book The Law of Attraction, Esther and Jerry Hicks talk about the concept that you attract to you what you ask for (Ok, it is a bit more complex than that).

Therefore, be very clear about what you want to attract precisely.

Ask for positive things, and you will get positive things.

Talk about a negative thing, and you will attract more negative things.

By asking, you programme your brain, and we have seen from the start of our work, that our brains distort—filter information according to how we want to see the world.

If you do not believe in the law of attraction, consider it a placebo.

What is a placebo? I love Seth Godin’s riff on Placebo: “A placebo is a story we tell ourselves that changes the way our brain and body work.” – Seth Godin.

It might not work, but it might work. What’s the risk? Zero.

You risk nothing in attracting more positivity towards you.