“MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL”

WHAT IS IT FOR?

  • Most people don’t know their personal values.

I was 42 when I decided to look into this because I felt my lack of balance was linked to this. Was I right? You bet!

  • We sometimes misunderstand values with behaviours and beliefs.

Sometimes we want to have this set of values – because of external influences such as family, education, religion, media, work, and social media – but it is not OUR real values. Most of us don’t know them.

  • We don’t really understand what’s most important to us.

We focus on outside sources, not inward. And it is only logical because it seems easier.

  • Looking in a mirror is a relatively straightforward exercise.

Not lying to yourself and telling the truth, being honest with yourself is not an easy exercise.

It is simple, not easy, especially when you do it on your own, without a guide or a coach.

If I were to ask you your 5-10 most important values, can you come up with these?

It is not easy to differentiate between your “wish” values and your real values.

It is even more challenging to put a name on them, get a clear definition of what they represent, and accept them and live by them.

Knowing your core values is essential to understanding yourself and your power.

Knowing those values is a prerequisite to creating a life in alignment with them.

SOME SPECIFIC EXAMPLES

To live intentionally, you need to be aware of the values behind your own words and actions and the values you want to see in yourself and to pass along to your children.

The more your life aligns with your core values, the better able you are to discover your purpose, grow in that direction, and contribute in the way only you can.

  • Your relationships: knowing your values makes it easier to identify those who share them and those who do not.
  • Your peace of mind: if something in your life is contrary to your values, you experience cognitive dissonance; this conflicted state prevents growth and even pushes you in the opposite direction.
  • Your legacy or influence: if you know your personal values, you can decide which ones you want to pass along to your children — and how you’ll do that.
  • Your time: if you know your core values, you can stop wasting time jumping from one thing to another; you’ll better understand what fulfils you and why.
  • Your attention (and all that goes with it): knowing your values and those you want to live by makes it easier to cut things out of your life that draw your attention away from what you truly consider important.

Our Core values drive our Decisions.

Our Decisions drive our Actions.

Our Actions drive our results.

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